I know when I’m looking for dating or relationship advice and tips, I want the facts. Sure, someone’s personal experience is amazing. I love hearing anecdotal evidence. But I also want to FACTS. The data. Today, I’m bringing you a topic that’s not just from the heart but also backed by some intriguing research – keeping the flames alive in long-term relationships. Let’s give that love story of yours an extra sizzle, shall we? 😘

Below are some of the top ways to keep a long term relationship sizzling, according to the research. Let me know how you keep your relationship thriving 😘

Adventure Time, Anyone? 🚀 Did you know that trying new activities together stimulates the brain’s reward system, releasing dopamine – the feel-good neurotransmitter? So, that spontaneous road trip or a dance class you’ve been eyeing isn’t just fun; it’s literally giving your relationship a natural high!

Bring Back the Date Night Magic 💫 According to a study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, couples who prioritize regular date nights reported higher levels of satisfaction in their relationships. So, planning that special night isn’t just a luxury; it’s relationship maintenance at its finest.

Keep the Compliments Flowing 🌟 A study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that expressing admiration and appreciation for your partner strengthens the relationship. Compliments aren’t just sweet nothings; they’re relationship boosters that build a positive foundation.

Create Shared Goals and Dreams 🌈 Research from the National Marriage Project indicates that couples who set and achieve goals together report higher levels of happiness in their relationships. So, those shared dreams and plans aren’t just dreams – they’re the secret sauce to a blissful partnership. Plan a trip together, make a goal for how much you’ll put into your Roth IRA, or create a shared couple vision board (or each make your own and have a show and tell)! 

Surprise Love Notes 💖 According to a study published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, small acts of kindness, like leaving surprise love notes, contribute to relationship satisfaction. It’s the little things that add up to big smiles and lasting connection. In my own personal relationship where we don’t get to spend the mornings together too frequently, this is a sweet way to wake up! Whomever leaves the house first leaves a note for the other person- I’ve saved every single one my husband has written to me and now have a box full. Reading back through them every so often is like a time capsule of what was going on in our relationship at the time. 

Here’s to all the love, laughter, and unforgettable moments in your relationships. Wishing you countless adventures and joy as you continue to build your unique love story. Cheers to thriving together!  💑

Sending you all the love and spicy vibes,