This idea sounds great theoretically, but sometimes I’ve found that it’s kind of hard to know exactly what this means and looks like in practice. So let’s get into it!

Choosing yourself looks like going to the fitness class you signed up for, rather than skipping it because the person you’re interested in asked you to dinner last minute.

It means when you see those flowers at the farmers market that you’ve been DYING for someone to get for you, you get them for yourself. You put them in your most beautiful vase, and display them on the kitchen table.

It looks like taking yourself out to dinner to your favorite restaurant and not being so concerned with what everyone else is thinking.

It looks like dance parties in your room, twerking in the mirror. 

Sure, it can look like face masks and bubble baths, but it also looks like drinking enough water, fueling your body with foods that make you feel good, and getting enough sleep.

You’ve got to choose to put your health, your needs, and your wellness first.  Even when you get into a relationship, or have kids, you still need to be doing these things. Because what do they say in the airplane? “If we start going down, put the mask over YOURSELF FIRST so you can then help other people around you”. You’re no help to anyone if you’re not meeting your own needs first.

I know when we start dating someone new that we’re really excited about, a lot of this stuff unintentionally gets kicked to the side. Because we are SO EXCITED to spend time with them, we prioritize that over everything else in our life.

And then what happens if things don’t work out with that person? Well, since we weren’t treating ourselves the way we should be, we feel even WORSE about the situation because we know internally that something is just out of alignment.

Something that I dive really deep into with my clients, is that we need to prioritize ourselves, throughout dating. We need to treat our self care as sacred and as the number one priority, because it is.