Why You're Only Attracting One Type of Guy
You ever wonder why you only attract the same type of guy?
Okay so seriously, do you ever just sit back and think to yourself “Why am I only attracting THIS type of person?” Whether it’s the bad boys, the fixer uppers, the cheaters, the ghosters, the ones scared of commitment, the “date you for a year, introduce you to my parents, travel abroad, but still deny you’re together” ones?
I hear this all the time! I hear from so many women that they’re SO TIRED of only attracting this ONE type of person… is that something you can relate to?
Let me just, throw something out there… might seem crazy.
Has it ever occurred to you that maybe you’re just CHOOSING the same type of person over and over again? Ever thought about how you’re gorgeous, funny, smart, and a bad ass that attracts LOTS OF DIFFERENT KINDS OF PEOPLE, but only CHOOSES one type?
Think back to a time at work, or the bar, or a park, or even on an app where some guy went to shoot his shot. He hit on you, and you might have been nice in the moment in turning him down, but later either to yourself, or to the group chat were like “*chuckle* ew”!
But seriously. We are SO QUICK to subconsciously pick up on vibes from strangers, especially in person. We analyze body language in less than a second, and already have made up our minds on if we’re attracted or not. So has it ever occurred to you that the only people you let get past a quick “Hello” are all the same type?
The thing is, the common factor in all these situations is… you.
If you’re having a “Holy $*** I’m %#*!ed” moment, never fear. There are ways to develop who you’re attracted to, but it takes work and it’s a process! I go super in depth into this with my clients, but to just give you a little tid-bit of it, you need to start dating people that aren’t just a 10/10 on the attraction scale. If you start casually dating people who maybe you normally wouldn’t, you can slowly start to become more attracted to the people you actually THINK you want to be with. The nice guys, the ones who want commitment, the ones who won’t ghost you.
Remember, you’re not only attracting the one type of guy. You’re attracting lots of guys and only CHOOSING one type. And thank goodness for that, because it puts the power back in your hands!
XOXO,
